What is fear?
Is fear real? Is fear fake? Is fear a mindset? Is fear a reaction?
I found myself asking these questions about fear in the midst of unexpected life change. Out of nowhere my world was turned upside down. Weeks of stress left me exhausted and overwhelmed in a whirlwind of fears.
Prior to this catastrophe I slept through the night, I made decisions confidently without second-guessing myself, and overall life as I knew it was pretty good. But now every decision I made was filtered through the lens of underlying fear.
When asked a simple question in the drive thru one day, “Would you like ketchup with that?” I was unable to answer and just sat there with tears pooling in my eyes. In that moment I realized I needed to get a grip on myself. I thought I really might be going crazy. Honestly, I could no longer answer the simplest questions without being fearful of making the wrong decision. Who had I become? I was now insecure, indecisive, inconsistent, irritated and irrational with my every thought. How did I let it get to this point? Fear was overtaking my life, my thoughts, and my wellbeing.
Surely you too have wrestled with fear? Fear of the future, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of loss, etc. you name it we’ve all had our struggles with fear.
So what do you do when fear takes you out and you feel paralyzed emotionally, mentally and even physically? When your mind races with endless worse case scenarios, you toss and turn all night long and you find yourself with sweaty palms and heart racing throughout the day.
How do you overcome the torment of fear?
I would love to tell you I have three simple steps that work like magic and you’ll never have to deal with fear again, but as far as I know that does not exist. I did, however, find the pathway to overcoming fear when it rears its ugly head. Because let’s face it, fear is not going down without a fight. Fear’s job is to knock you down, keep you stuck and leave you questioning and confused.
There is one pathway I understand to be true for overcoming fear, and that is to know PEACE. Peace is the opposite of fear. If we truly know peace the second it leaves, we will know it immediately. It’s like a red flag in our spirit goes off that we are out of alignment.
Jesus said, “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27
I don’t know about you, but I’ve been guilty of focusing too much on what is wrong verses what is right. That is a tactic of fear. The more we focus on fear the more room we allow for it in our life. We want to focus on peace, and we must be intentional about it. Jesus is the Prince of Peace, and He is our protégé to follow. All throughout scripture Jesus carries a tone of peace through His actions, words and character. Read through the gospels, Matthew, Mark, Luke and John and you will get to know Jesus intimately, and learn how to live out peace in your life.
Setting our minds and hearts each day on Christ is the way to truly know and experience peace. Make no excuses, do what it takes to build a strong intimate relationship with Jesus, and I promise you will be able to overcome every fear that comes your way.
About our guest:
Linda Kuhar is a Christian Life Coach, Board Certified Coach with the Center for Credentialing & Education, and has led women worldwide through online Bible studies. Linda is a speaker and the author of Worthy of a Miracle, 5 Simple Truths for Believing and Receiving God’s Love. Her book is about her miraculous recovery from cancer and a coma given less than 5% chance of survival and still struggled with a question so many wrestle with: “Am I worthy of God’s love?” For more inspiration and encouragement from Linda visit www.lindakuhar.com